The problem with a solitary mind…

The problem with a solitary mind is thus…

In living within our own sphere of understanding and acknowledgement, of issues that may befall us, we often deliver a skewed perspective on the resolution to any given number of problems.

This is where you can fall foul!

For many years now I’ve repressed my anger, depression and anxieties, for want of control and to suppress any potential aftershock effects…. that said, it’s often done more harm than good.

Once upon a time I helped a daytime TV celebrity launch her own clothing line into a major ‘ethical’ retailer and was screwed over…

Never taking either the celeb or the retailer into account for their unethical stance on where the idea was conceived (in my head by the way); and despite her agent suggesting the deal I lined up was the best deal he’d seen of this nature in the licensing industry (as he sits back getting 10% for life, for doing jack shit), you have to watch them smile away daily, or hear them playing crap tunes on the radio, while you wonder where next months rent is coming from and they rake it in without a care…

The real kicker was the press release that suggested a charity approached them with the idea and you see your role seems to have become a fiction to all but yourself, bar the insulting £1000 finders fee to keep your mouth shut and jog on…

I’ve thought about this a lot in the last few years and I definitely still feel that I was royally screwed over, I’m sure there’s loads of PR bluster, or pretext they could throw about to suggest that I wasn’t up to the job etc. but essentially, both parties were dishonest in their approach and out for their own end gain.

This is the path of the mortal however, it’s our word over the vague reality that is our upside down society.

Some might say I’m bitter; definitely early days I was, however not now, now I’m just pissed off that I did someone a major favour and I should have seen through the mask of TV foundation; misdirected by the bluster of the celebrity suggestive “you should present a documentary on how the clothing was made, because you’ve got such great energy and great presentation skills, ITV2 will love it”, blah blah… flawed by my own ego and honesty in trusting the fluff…

The fact is, it’s a lesson in life and in business. People talk rubbish when incentivised by their own financial gain and no one ever wants to pay out when the money’s in the bank, regardless of whether they’d not be there without you.

But, one day I’ll write a book and ensure the devil’s in the detail, there’s plenty more where that little anecdote come from.

The issue with having a mental health disorder, is that when you call ‘bullsh*t’ people just put in on you… and the socially indoctrinated join the fray, because it’s easier to believe that a person with a mental health issue attracts or creates trouble, rather than considering that he just might be more like The Man of La Manche in his approach to ethics…

This leading us back to the problem with our solitary minds, we need to consider if we are sharing those things that bring down the positive tone of our lives.

Don’t just smile and nod at the buying director at events like nothings happened… acknowledge the reality and enjoy a good scowl every now and then…

Why do we awkwardly accept the negative narratives in our life, for fear of social non-inclusion… screw the social…

Legal & General… great internal mental health campaign, they love sharing it everywhere and talking about how great they are to their staff, they sponsor all sorts, they line celebs pockets to champion their initiatives, but they categorically tell their agents “do not accept anyone with any kind of mental health issues for insurance”, so the initiative doesn’t translate from PR to policy for the masses, but the staff stay at the company, make more money for shareholders and on paper from a public perspective L&G look great, when they’re just not making the right moves because it’s risky on their financials…

Our lives are shrouded in this veil of falsity, there’s hundreds of examples I could give; I just don’t want to run out of future blog material in one foul swoop…

But don’t let this cloud oppress you as an individual… don’t get trapped in the cycle… we can’t solve all the wrong in the world and we can only ever call a spade a spade and stick to our guns.

The good thing is, you don’t have to remember what you said to people if you don’t fabricate it in the first place and those people will always know what they did, whether they have the intellect, or want, to establish internal guilt or not.

The world reacts to the energy we give out, so don’t live solitary in mind, project a passion and a focus and be honest with yourself. At some point, you’ll find the fit, it may not be swimming in money, it may not be on Simon Cowell’s chart list, it may not be a job role that knocks your socks off… but peace of mind can be just as valuable when you know who you really are and live it!